Monday, September 29, 2014

The Female Power to Cast and Deflect Guilt

(A chapter from The New Power of American Women - The Essential Survival Guide.

Women have more strength in their looks than we have in our laws, 
and more power by their tears than we have in our arguments.” – Saville
These many innate powers in American women are very strange and interesting phenomenons. One of the most incredible and least understood, is the power of women to cast guilt onto others as well as deflect any blame upon themselves. Perhaps it stems from their beliefs about themselves and that from day one, think of themselves as “little princesses.” This mindset is because American moms are typically great builders of conscience, even if they themselves are flawed. The power of American women to cast as well as deflect guilt, stems from childhood programming and it runs deep in our collective subconscious.

From the enhanced lips of millions of American mothers, comes the continuous “Don’t do this and don’t do that” commands to her growing children. “Awww, that’s OK, come to mommy, she’ll fix it for you.” While the constant TV innuendo is that dad’s either missing or has an erection problem or perhaps is the bumbling fool, criminal or sex-crazed politician/beast, it seems mom always has the righteous plank. Daily news continually remind us of how women are leading the family financially and/or perhaps the woman who brought a politician or an army general down by his zipper. There is no escape from this in the zeitgeist.

Certain types of single moms, who have been dumped by a passing lover (or two or three), can get proficient in guilt-throwing and guilt-deflecting. They learn early-on that they have to somehow justify their own sexual appetites by making the missing or part-time dad, look like the lusting beast or “typical man” who isn’t anything good in life without her. Even though he may be an idiot, drunkard, casanova or worse, the child doesn’t realize yet that mommy was the chooser of daddy, by allowing him to have her in the first place (if she wasn’t raped). The child may learn much later in life that one of the real reasons daddy didn’t want to stick around was because daddy didn’t want to be there when the beast in mommy came all the way out (also see Her Power to Create Step-People).

Also, some kids may notice that when mommy got fatter and started to incessantly nag daddy, she started to demand that daddy change himself. Some ladies on the TV talk-shows also showed how swollen moms can rationalize and profit from their girth and still blame it on their scared and escaping husbands. American kids learn early in life that some mommies get to play victim if and when any daddy bolts, even if mommy evolved into a slob, a nag and/or huge porker. Mommy was very good too, at making daddy feel guilty and that he did indeed, make a very big mistake by bringing her some wine and roses in the first place. That’ll teach him.

Meanwhile, if a daddy stuck around awhile, the daddy soon realizes (to himself of course) that he could turn into some kind of neutered, henpecked, fat couch potato if his life is left up to mommy’s sense of what is right for daddy. Now too, in the 21st century, millions of American mommies have learned how to search the Internet or call the 800# on the TV for an attorney who will take her hubby-problem on contingency, depending of course, on how much daddy makes. Mommy sees many other American women doing it too and also learned that it doesn’t have to be the real daddy either, because any man with money or “earning potential” will do. All she has to do is somehow trick or entice him (whoever he is) into acting like the sexual beast he is anyway and mommy can have him legally by the balls for many years. Even if he didn’t do it.

These are the typical, every-day subconsciously coded messages that are passed on to American girls and boys. These everyday, guilt-throwing moms reinforce their words and actions with never-ending TV commercials and movies, which are literally soaked with fake tits, lips, eyes, butt-lifts, tummy-tucks and feminine bizarreness. This is continuous, narcissistic bogus beauty combined with copious violence and fake notions of a woman’s innocence. But all that is OK though, because mommy does it, it works and that’s how she rules and also got daddy in the first place.

On a lighter note, an empirical study of “Murder in Families” conducted by the U.S. Department of Justice contained some very revealing and shocking statistics. It showed that in over 10,000 cases, women kill their spouses far more than previously thought. Women were responsible for 40% of all spousal homicides and “among black marital partners, wives were just about as likely to kill their husbands as husbands were to kill their wives.”

Alan M. Dershowitz, a Harvard Law School professor and a consulting attorney to O.J. Simpson, used that study and expanded one on his own with the help of the Justice Department’s author of the study. He published his combined findings in the Los Angeles Times.

The study showed; “Wives who kill their husband were acquitted in 12.9% of the cases studied while husbands who kill their wives were acquitted in only 1.4% of the cases. Women who were convicted of killing their husbands were sentenced to an average six years in prison, while men received an average sentence of 17 years for killing their wives.”


Women Get More Mercy

“Public opinion is a second conscience.” – William Alger 
Women also get more mercy when it comes to probation for killing and 16% of women killers get probation while men get only 1.6%. Boiling it all down, the conclusion of the federal Murder in Families study showed that for all family murders, which includes killing of parents and children as well as spouses – “55.5% of the victims were males and 44.5% were females,” and that “female defendants were more likely than male defendants to have murdered a person of the opposite sex” (men kill each other more often).

Mr. Dershowitz summed it all up by noting the feministic slant of the study;

“Despite the unexpected data, the Justice Department press release buried the politically incorrect information under the following headline: ‘Wives are the most frequent victims in family murders.’ However, “misdiagnosing this psychological problem to fit into a political agenda will delay its proper treatment and cure.”
Sliced Penis Anyone?

Another infamous example of the way guilt is deflected from American women and their criminal actions is in the Lorena Bobbitt case. This is the case where Mr. John Wayne Bobbitt had his penis removed by his wife Lorena. With a quick flick of her wrist, his boner was a goner but her premeditated act wasn’t considered an attempted murder and she literally became a feminine folk heroine because of it.

The story goes like this: Mr. Bobbitt came home drunk one night and sexually assaulted Lorena. However, immediately after she cut off his penis, Lorena drove to a dark highway and threw it out of the window. Several hours later, the police found it and surgeons reattached it (lucky Mr. Bobbitt).

They hauled him off to jail but it became a charge he always denied and was subsequently acquitted of.

During the trial, Lorena also testified that she didn't remember cutting off John's penis. Her defense team argued “temporary insanity” and claimed she was the victim of long-term physical and emotional abuse.

"In her mind, it was his penis from which she could not escape which caused her the most pain. The most fear. The most humiliation." Lorena's lawyer said.

The jury found Lorena NOT guilty by reason of insanity. However, several years later and on an Oprah TV show, the “new Lorena” tells the mostly female audience; 

“Thanks to therapy, I’m a much different woman now. I evolve as a woman and it's wonderful to actually learn from your mistakes and to apply it into your life."

I don’t know about you but what this suggests to me is, that the power that women have to deflect their guilt, as well as hide their true identities, is so hermetic that it has us all deceived even in our courts. So well hidden is her power to shift blame and guilt, the courts and media automatically re-writes and offers up copious, pseudo-truths for her. Juries suck it all up too. It seems we always want to believe a woman’s innocent even when we know she’s not. An extraordinary power indeed.

As an aside: I’ve always thought this was sadly humorous and wondered what a strange coincidence Bobbitt’s last name was. It would be hard to make that up (another pun?). I also wonder how Mr. Bobbitt, the police, the doctor and nurses felt while they were reattaching his penis. Were they all smiling or perhaps, just the female nurses? Surely Bobbitt wasn’t laughing. And, just how did he pee for the next year or more? I’ll also bet Mr. Bobbitt constantly rethinks ever having sex again. :-)